Again life is proving to be packed and busy in so many wonderful ways! I’m nearing the end of the spring semester, and with that comes the deadlines for many projects, impending finals, and other fun things too, to celebrate the year!
As I’m writing this post, I just finished my last class of the year. It’s really hard for me to believe that I’m halfway through my college career. I feel like I moved in only a few months ago. The weird thing about time is how it passes so quickly and so slowly at the same time.
One thing I want to make sure I do this time around is to really absorb and enjoy every moment that I have here at my college. I’m very lucky in that I go to a school that I really love. I have made wonderful, close friends here, and am surrounded by a supportive campus and community. I have an on-campus job that I truly enjoy. I’m getting an amazing education in one of the most uniquely situated schools in the country. I even have a chance to take a class in the oldest college building in the United States!
But what tends to happen is that I get caught up in the everyday struggles. Trying to make it to class on time, getting work and readings done, squeezing in a workout once in awhile… yep, definitely a challenge for me. And the perfectionist in me wants to do all of these things well. And I used to try to. But now, I’m trying to be more realistic. I can’t be good at everything and do everything to the extent that I would like to.
We live in a culture that pressures everyone to do more: harder workouts on less sleep on less food, getting the best grades and salary, all while being part of a perfectly functional family, and engaging in an exciting social life. Yeah, that’s not happening for me. And I don’t think that’s happening for most people. But there’s a tendency to put on an image of “doing it all.”
Now enters in a term I often find myself using: bragplaining. It usually goes something like this: “I’m so tired, I got only 4 hours of sleep because I was writing my term paper. I mean I go an A+ so it was worth it.” And then meanwhile you spent a week drafting and revising the paper and got a B+ that you were pretty happy with. Sound familiar? There are a million different variations on this. But I’m sure you’re familar with hearing something like this.
But you know what? I’m done with this sort of thing. And I think we all should be.
Here are my confessions. Aka what it is like to be a realistic human who is just trying to function and keep it together.
I proudly get about 8 hours of sleep every night. I feel best when I get 9 actually. Yep, I’m actually not overly functional on less, and still am hopelessly addicted to coffee no matter what.
I eat a lot of food. And no, I am not AT ALL ashamed of how much I eat, nor do I think that I should adhere to some guideline set about by an online calculator for how many calories I should eat. I eat a lot of healthy food and love salads, avocado, and natural nut butters. I also really enjoy cake and bacon and potato chips. And I feel no shame over eating either. Having experienced disordered eating habits in the past, I choose now to live in the freedom that I have created for myself and that I was created to live in. What other people do works for them, but I am proud that I make decisions that work for me.
I love working out. Running is one of my favorite things to do. But I also really love lying in my bed and watching Netflix. Moving my body everyday makes me feel amazing. But not every day is a speedwork session with crazy mileage. A lot of times it’s taking the long way when I’m walking because I love the feeling of sunshine on my back. Some people need more than this to feel good, but I’m happy that I’ve found something that keeps my healthy and happy.
I try to get work done ahead of deadlines. I become a stress ball if I don’t. I hate the feeling of procrastination, even when I know that I am doing it. I can’t pull an all-nighter or study for 6 hours straight. Not only because I need my rest, but also because I can’t hold my attention span long enough to do that. I also just don’t want to deal with the stress of trying to cram things in at the last minute.
So those are my four confessions. Basically the things that make me a human. And I’m 90% of other people out there feel similarly. Stop the bragplaining of doing more with less, and maybe start doing less with more and see where it leads.
I’d appreciate any thoughts or comments you have on this topic!